National Grandparents Day is celebrated on the first Sunday after Labor Day. A special bond between children and their grandparents not only increases the emotional stability of the first but also lengthens the lives of grandparents. It is important to cherish this relationship and this day is another reminder of that.
The role of grandparents in kids’ lives
Grandparents save the day like real superheroes as in many cases, they assist the parents in raising a child. Whether they live with the young parents or not, their influence on their grandchildren cannot be overlooked. Elder relatives help a youngster broaden their social horizons by allowing them to step outside of the immediate family and gain social interaction skills.
The mental richness and wisdom that grandparents are able to share with their grandkids traditionally set their relationships apart from the relations with parents, who may not always have the opportunity to do so due to their youth or lack of free time.
Grandparents are more likely to talk to their grandkids about their own or their parents’ childhoods. In sharing these memories, youngsters develop a sense of family identity and maintain family traditions. Grandparents or even elder family members offer the family integrity, help it stay together, and improve family life by fusing traditions with evolving social morals.
The most treasured childhood memories are those that we wish to recreate for our children, such as eating pancakes made by grandma, going fishing with grandpa, and spending the summer together.
Importance of family traditions
Family traditions provide the child with what is most crucial—the assurance that things will always be this way, that the family will always come together no matter what. The mother’s loving touch, the grandmother’s charm, and the father’s and grandfather’s upbeat demeanor. These little memories will stay with them for the rest of life.
Grandparents provide a unique sense of love and in turn, play a significant role in a child’s life. Typically, they are not demanding and do not punish their grandchild. Instead, they continuously give their spiritual riches and warmth. They do this to an extent that it is common for grandparents to lavish their grandchildren with excessive indulgence and attention by fulfilling the child’s every wish, showering him with gifts, and almost buying his love.
Grandparents that are conscious of their own unique position are the most prepared. Grandparents recognize the importance of their offspring since it marks a new stage in their lives, boosts social standing, lengthens life expectancy, and offers new opportunities for happiness. In addition to offering some material and domestic assistance, grandparents function as a bridge between the family’s history and present, passing along customs and tried-and-true morals, and surrounding grandkids with such unconditional love.
When there is no father in the family, for whatever reason, the grandfather’s position is even more crucial. Grandma regularly assists with schoolwork. However, grandparents take far more extensive and significant action. Their exceptional love for their grandkids is often unencumbered by the minor inconveniences of daily living, unlike that of their parents.
Challenges that can come along the way
Although the reciprocal love and strong bond between grandkids and their grandparents are ultimately blissful, sometimes families may face significant challenges with other relationships; most commonly the relationships between the older generations and the new parents. Naturally, it is also vital to make every effort to come to a consensus.
Some of these issues are age-old, while others are more recent. These issues are frequently attributed to the grandmother because the grandpa typically engages the kids less. Disagreements frequently occur when children are affected by two mothers, close relatives, and members of two distinct generations. One fact—that the grandmother can no longer actively participate in household life—is sufficient to support this. Additionally, her perspective and expertise are not taken into consideration to the same degree as before due to the significant shifts in viewpoints on the issues surrounding child development.
Wisdom and compassion may be used to resolve any problem
A sensible mother will not attempt to remove the grandmother from the child’s upbringing, and a wise grandmother does not attempt to challenge the authority of the child’s mother. A wise grandfather will refrain from debating the appropriateness of getting his grandson a bicycle in his presence. The boy’s father, on the other hand, does not dismiss his grandfather’s counsel. Additionally, parents need to be mindful that grandparents who reside in the household or are frequently left alone with young children have to have some authority. These are knowledgeable individuals with their own perspectives, therefore they cannot slavishly carry out the wishes of the child’s parents. The parents frequently have to explain to the kids if the grandparents have other customs or established traditions.
When there is harmony within the family, elders’ counsel, even if it is sparse, is seen as useful and does not lead to resentment. Older people need to keep in mind that their kids are already in charge of their own households. Their life experience will help them avoid conflicts with their sons-in-law and daughters-in-law since they can recall their interaction with the elder generation when they were young and in charge of their children in conflict situations.