Some parents think that sharing with peers is unnecessary because then the child would have all the resources for a prosperous life. But in this scenario, there is a risk of bringing up a greedy child. On the other hand, if you consistently give everything to someone else, you will ultimately wind up with nothing. Experience has taught us that kids who don’t learn to say “no” in the present suffer from manipulation in the future. So how can you maintain equilibrium without sacrificing the treasured golden middle?
Parents must know what to do if their child begins to exhibit greedy, avaricious behavior. If the child gets angry when it is necessary to share, explain to them in a calm manner why sharing is so essential and why they shouldn’t cut corners. Give examples from the real life of what happens when a child does not share toys. Find stories or cartoons where the characters are stingy and encounter challenges. Talk to them after reading to find out what they concluded and whether they realized it was terrible to be too frugal.
Why Does the Child Become Greedy?
There are multiple answers to this question such as:
- First of all, ask yourself “what is the reason that my baby is greedy”. Often it is that the child lacks parental love, affection, and attention.
- Sometimes greed emerges as a logical outcome of the kid’s single-parent home life and his need for connection with his absent parent, when buying gifts they view it as a highly valued action.
- The child is envious of their younger sibling. They will naturally show greed and hostility against their brother or sister if they receive more attention and parental love.
- Living in poverty, when a child views toys as a luxury, worries that they will be damaged or ruined by others, and observes how other kids have access to all they need (modern games, sports equipment, family outings to kid-friendly attractions, etc.).
- When the child is extremely shy and their only friends are toys, it is natural that he or she doesn’t want to share them.
An unhealthy or excessive sense of ownership is possible. A baby is not innately greedy; rather, they progressively become acclimated to it in the family and can even turn into a selfish and ungrateful child.
How to Teach a Child not to Be Greedy?
You might think to yourself “my child is greedy”, “my child is not sharing with their peers”, and “how can you teach your baby not to be greedy?”. Parents themselves have the key to resolving this issue as they should always be a good example for their child. The most effective weapon in the struggle against undesirable qualities is this. Concentrate on what you can give, not what you want to gain. Don’t simply give to people on special occasions; do something nice for them all year long. Remember to express gratitude and kind behavior towards others and instruct kids to do the same.
You should keep in mind the fundamental principles of behavior if the child refuses to share his toys with other kids or takes someone else’s and refuses to return them:
- it’s crucial to remain calm, refrain from yelling, and be nice when your little one refuses to share their toy;
- it is not appropriate to refer to them as greedy;
- requests to share should be made in a soft, calm voice;
- it frequently helps to divert the child’s attention;
- you should not argue with the parents of the other children;
- the child is painfully aware of the situation when the parents take the toy from them and give it to others.
No parent wants to hear that their child is referred to as greedy. But until the child learns to handle disagreements on their own, you must teach by showing.
How to Prevent your Child from Becoming Greedy
Keep in mind that social motivations start to grow along with actual compassion after three years old. If you start teaching your child good manners before this moment, a child whose property rights have not been recognized will not recognize and respect the other person’s property rights.
There can be no discussion about greed when the infant is just one year old. It is unnecessary to exert pressure on the child’s moral ideals at this early stage of child development.
At the age of two, a child realizes that there are things that belong to them and there are things that belong to others. The infant has to be taught that their possessions belong to them alone and that no one is permitted to remove them without their consent.
At the age of three, a child must learn to say a resounding “no”. If not, they will be misled, and their life will become a nightmare. Parents must teach their children that there is a difference between refusal and greed. Denial is the protection of one’s possessions, and greed is a bad and harmful trait.
At the age of four, a child enters a new stage of socialization. Communication will be in the foreground, and things already play a secondary role, they only help to start a conversation and find friends. At this age, youngsters are aware that sharing chocolates, borrowing a typewriter or toy, or lending a pen would make it simpler for them to communicate with friends. And your role as the parent is to encourage it.